And to do it, had to be someone different than you naturally are? Welcome to the reality of being a normal human being in a complicated world.
Most people I’ve met were not being their true, gifted, born selves when I met them. They had to pretend some things, maybe a lot to just get along with others. To be part of something bigger, each one I met had to become a “cog” to fit into a machine that was getting things done for a variety of people and many, perhaps thousands of people–perhaps millions over time.
It creates frustration, a lot of frustration when you have to be different than you want to be. I hear you, I see you. I can’t change what is going on and not likely can you either. If you can remember that people typically have had to do more, and less, and different than they may have planned on–can you be more forgiving of others? Knowing you are not the only one who got restricted, changed to fit in?
Part of this forgiveness I write about is the one where you HAVE TO RELEASE OTHERS from your own expectations. One way to do it is to get to know the person who needs to be released. The other is to not have expectations and let them be. Just allow them to be who they think they are. Not everyone needs to be held, restricted to fit in. And that’s what you and I need to think about. Not everyone is BOUND legally to accommodate, to fit in, to be something specific for others. In fact, “others” may need that one person to be different and free to show they are NOT PART of a certain machine in humanity.
Some people get very focused on who they are, then insist others be just like them. People who work in workplaces for instance have been taught how to conform to the standards expected. They go out in public places and expect others to know and do things the same way. Some people are from a certain community or country and know specific laws and traditions and then expect others to be similar.
People are often not talking enough to each other, and when they do they are holding their own reality to their own groups and communities, ways of life. Some people have done a lot of traveling and experiencing and know the value of understanding “different worlds”. Some people are actually from different worlds and know the planet, even you in a different way than you have ever heard of or imagined. Other people are used to a smaller life, and doing things one way over and over again.
The most important understanding a person can have is the lack of responsibility some people may have. Not every person has the same responsibilities in life as you and I do. Some people have or had very specific responsibilities and they may be different than we are familiar with. They may be bound to one person or group and are doing it well for them. Also some people don’t have a lot of responsibilities, they can actually “fool around” more because of it.
“Why are you walking that way?” says one person to the stranger.
“Because I have time to spare this afternoon, I don’t mind taking a longer walk to get back to my car,” says the stranger.
Who are you and I to judge? Do you see how this works?
Some people are already DONE with duties to others. They can take the longer walks.